Mastering the Art of Being Alone

Whether you identify as an introvert or extravert, or even an omnivert )as I like to put it), everyone finds themselves being alone at times, and everyone still needs human connection.  However, it is the being alone part that can bring a person a lot of negative connotations.  Such as boredom, anxiety, sadness or depression, and even fear. Though, this does not have to be the case.  

The first place to start is the understanding that being alone, and feeling alone are not interdependent.  Yes, you can have the experience of being by yourself and feeling alone, but the feeling of loneliness is not dependent on being around no one else.  Actually, there are many people who are constantly around others, but still feel alone on the inside.  This loneliness comes from a place of lack, and this may be a topic for a spiritual coaching article at a later time. 

However, the key here is to understand that being in a space by yourself, does not have to equate to feeling lack, or any other negative emotions.  True masters of loving life know how to benefit from their alone time; this is so that you don’t become dependent on other people for joy or productivity from your time.  

Where to start?  Some very basic and easy practical ways to begin to enjoy your own time is to first stop scrolling through social media, especially during time alone; comparison is the weapon of choice for anxiety, depression, and feeling of lack.  Secondly, rethink the time you are given as a blessing to work on yourself and your goals.  Often when around others, we do not have the mental solitude to go within ourselves to get to know ourselves.  You cannot love yourself or value yourself, if you don't even know who you are. Thirdly, if you do not enjoy solitude because you think it is a waste of your time where you could be working with your team, or building memories with other people, know that recharging yourself is important to best do those things.  Being alone is also a time of rest.  There are many other skills and tools one can learn to master in their alone time that can be discussed during a coaching session. 

However, the point is that mastering the enjoyment of your alone time, whether you have that time by choice or not, can result in also bringing in great confidence in yourself throughout your life.  This is because  it detaches you from being dependent for your own inner joy.  And remember, a feeling of loneliness is not as a result of being physically alone, but if you can master the art of being alone, it may also assist you in feeling loneliness less and less.  THis is because you will feel more at peace within yourself, and so it diminishes the feeling of lack.  

For further guidance and practical tips please do not hesitate to contact Coach Avy at coachavy.info@gmail.com, or email directly on the contact page.  Spaces are limited.  May be covered by your insurance.